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Self-care practices for our changing world

Things to consider trying

Scheduling calls 
Scheduling video or phone calls with your loved ones and friends regularly. Ideally speak to someone at least once a day. Try using apps like WhatsApp, Google Hangouts, Zoom and House Party to arrange multi-person calls with wider friends and family. This also works well with children chatting with grandparents.

Join others
If you dislike eating alone, arrange to call someone specifically over mealtimes and cook, eat and even wash up “together”.

Positives
Asking yourself and those you speak to what the highlight of their day was. Finding at least one positive think about the day helps us re-frame the negativity bias that inevitably occurs when we are feeling worried and scared.

Volunteer to help your local community
Check in on vulnerable or elderly neighbours. See if your local area has a Coronavirus response facebook page or WhatsApp group (the local post office is often a good place to find our if something like this is happening – give them a ring). Get involved in any way you safely can.

Join online
Consider joining a community online book club or sign up to a virtual event or workshop to connect with like-minded individuals.

Donating to a foodbank
This outbreak will affect the most vulnerable in our communities disproportionately. Any little helps. Check out this page from the Trussell Trust so see the different ways you can get involved. You can find out what food banks near you need, by putting your postcode into the search box.

Things to consider minimising

Screen time

Try to avoid relying on texts or social media messaging as your only or primary form of social interaction. We are social beings, and we need to see faces! I think this is particularly important if you are living alone.

Consider re-framing the phrase ‘social distance’ as ‘physical distance’

We all need social connection and therefore we need to stay in contact and close to our social network. Perhaps more now than ever. What we can’t do, however, is be physically close to them. I thought this was a helpful little re-framing tip.

Other resources

  • Find your local community response group by entering your postcode here.
  • Keep an eye on restrictions as and when they change, but do try to embrace (safely) the meet-ups that are allowed (such as exercising with another person outside, for example).
  • As we approach the run-up to Christmas, and all essential shops shut down for one of their most important trading months, please consider supporting local for some of your Christmas shopping this year, and see if you can order gifts online for collection, or if they offer a delivery service. Just buying a card can make a difference.

Ideas to build connection:

  • Try writing a letter. Sometimes, having something physical to hold can make the sense of disconnection to loved ones a little easier.
  • Re-ignite the group video quiz! Or as we move into the festive season, perhaps a group carol sing-along?!
  • Take a look at some of the tools, books and fames offered by The School of Life for having better conversations and building connection, even if it’s virtually for a while.
  • Send little pleasures to loved ones: Heard a great new music track you think they might light? Read an article that you know would strike a chord? Seen a lovely or funny picture that would brighten their day? Send it on!